Your parents cared for you growing up, and you want to return the favor. That makes sense, you feel obligated, you feel a sense of responsibility, you feel that you “owe it to them”.
Before you jump in with both feet, you need to consider all of the implications of this decision. This is a full-time endeavor, and cannot be taken lightly.
I know, I know, your parents cared for you growing up…changed your diapers, kissed your “boo-boos”, but that is a lot cuter when it is a cute little child, then it is when it’s a grown adult, of any age. I’m not saying you shouldn’t do it, not even close, it’s a commendable and admirable choice.
In order to help you make this tough decision, we’ve put together ten questions you can ask yourself so you can begin to prepare yourself for what lies ahead, if you decide you do want to take on the care of your aging loved one.
There are no right or wrong answers…There is just a lot to think about before making the decision. Each family’s answers will be different, and specific to their own circumstances. I hope this will guide you in the direction that is right for yours….
- Do you have the time and resources (financial, physical, support, medical supplies, etc) needed to care for your aging parent?
- Is it safe in your home, and accessible (not too many stairs, etc), for my loved one, or can you afford to remodel?
- Are you physically (and mentally) able to care for your parent?
- Are you financially able to support an aging parent, and/or are they able to contribute to the finances?
- Will your employer allow you the flexibility you will need to care for your loved one, without costing your job or advancement?
- Is your family willing to support you in your decision to care for your loved one?
- Are you qualified to help your aging parent with any special needs or health concerns?
- Do you have the legal authority to make any necessary legal decisions?
- Will you still have time for yourself and your immediate family (spouse and children), if you begin caring for your aging parent?
- Are you able to bring in qualified help for when you want to go on vacation, or when you need a break?
Did the questions help? Or did they just create more questions?
Well, we understand. It’s what we do. We help people who find themselves in this situation every single day.
If your answer to any of these questions is either ‘No’ or ‘I don’t know’, then Contact Us, and we can help. We would be happy to meet with you for a short phone call to help get your questions answered.